Wednesday, December 26, 2007

From the Manger to the Cross

Our pastor is a man of many talents. Watch here a scene from our Christmas Eve service, in which he paints--live--a canvas that shows the true meaning of Christmas. We were moved that night...I hope the video conveys the same emotion.

Tuesday, December 25, 2007

Little Drummer Boy

A very merry Christmas to all of you catching up on your blogs today. My family spent the long celebratory weekend raking in the gifts--a tad excessive if you put them all together, but each grandparent was represented in the madness. There are four sets of grandparents, so imagine the excess. We enjoyed time together with all but one of them (we missed you, MawMaw). This morning the kids let us sleep til 8 before clamoring for presents and breakfast. This evening we spent with aunts, uncles, and cousins...more family fun.

For the past few weeks I've been enjoying an early me-to-me Christmas gift, Josh Groban's Noel CD. You are hopefully hearing his rendition of Little Drummer Boy. This song in particular has influenced my thinking this Christmas season. Often, in the past, I considered this song one of those sweet little traditional tunes with little to no biblical import. But there was something in the power of Josh's arrangement that brought the words and their significance to life.

Little Baby...
I am a poor boy too...
I have no gift to bring...
that's fit to give a king...

I have often felt like the little drummer boy. Compared to so many others, I have nothing fit to give a king. Really, none of us has. The richest among us is dirt poor in His eyes. So what can we give to honor him?

Shall I play for you...
on my drum...ON MY DRUM.......?
I played my drum for him....
So to honor him!

It's as if the boy has an epiphany. Wait, I can do something. It's not much compared to what these others are bringing, but it's what I have. And when I heard the powerful notes soar after Josh's voice at this verse, I had an epiphany, too. Shall I write for you? Shall I love my children for you? Shall I serve my husband for you? Shall I teach for you? Shall I give you what I alone can give you?

I played my drum for him...
I played my best for him...
Then He smiled at me...
Me and my drum...

When I'm engrossed in this song, worshipping God through it, this is the stanza that sometimes makes me weep. When the boy played his heart out, God smiled at him. That's what I want. I want to live so that He's smiling now, and so that he'll smile when I enter heaven's gates. I want to hear "Well done, good and faithful servant."

This Christmas, I want to be like the little drummer boy. Do you? What will you give to honor him?

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Take a Break and Feed the Hungry

Thanks to Heather, who shared this creative way help feed the hungry. Play a word game at www.freerice.com, and for every word you get right, they donate 20 grains of rice through the United Nations. I spent less than 5 minutes playing and "donated" 900 grains. Not much in one sitting, but imagine several thousand people playing a few minutes a day. That's a lot of rice!

So, next time you need a short break from your daily routine, play a word game. You'll learn a lot and help someone else.

Thursday, December 06, 2007

Words Likely to Come Out of My Mouth Any Given Day

How do you obey? (answer: "right away" or "the first time")
No!
Binkies are for bed.
Where's my hug?
How was your day, Nate?
Time for quiet time!
I don't care (that you say you aren't tired)--you are still taking a nap!
I love you.
Drink?
Hungry?
Bad dog!
No playing at the sink.
Brush teeth time!
Hold my hand....dangit, I mean now! (in the parking lot)
Drink your milk.
No more candy!
Where's lovey?
Dear Lord, (insert various desperate prayers)
When are you coming home? (to DH, around 5:30pm)
Pull the (bathtub) plug!
Get back in bed!

Wednesday, December 05, 2007

Wordless Wednesday

Monday, December 03, 2007

Creative Parenting: Engaging With Your Kids

Remember my friend Mary DeMuth? She of the Authentic Parenting book? She's come up with a nifty little resource full of practical helps to jumpstart meaningful conversations between parents and kids. She's hosting a give-away contest over on her blog, so if you'd like to win a copy head over there and post a comment. She gives you some samples to whet your appetite, but can also purchase the entire resource for a mere $5 (if you don't win a copy).

Additionally, Mary has given some thought to methods that might reach the techno-savvy, isolated, inward-focused child...and wouldn't all our kids be that way if we left them to the advertisers' mercies? Read below for some nuggets of wisdom on how to engage disengaged children and teens.

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In a world of Halo, iphones, and IM, how do parents strategically engage their tuned-out kids? How can we create the kinds of homes that are irresistible to our children, enticing enough to make them tune out from games, media and texting and tune in to the rhythms of family life? Five ways.

One: Offer ‘em Something Better

The most enticing thing to a kid is community—real, authentic, God-breathed community. To create this, learn to do the following:

Say you’re sorry when you’re wrong and ask forgiveness.
Strive to become the person you want your child to become. Practice reconciliation, open communication, and serving each other.
Listen, really listen to your kids. Give them eye-time. Don’t uh-huh their concerns, but strive to ask great questions to draw them out. Be willing to share your own struggles with your kids.
Plan meal times together. And when you do, talk! One way to foster great communication is to have questions already prepared. (See resource above.)
Have an unplug day—no phones, TV, gaming systems, and return to old fashioned board games, taking walks outside, and reading together.
Resist DVDs in the minivan. Try books on tape instead—a wonderful way to engage your child’s mind. Discuss the book afterward.
Welcome others into your home. Be the house all the kids want to congregate in.

Two: If You Can’t Beat ‘em, Join ‘em

Our kids will see movies; they will watch TV shows. Instead of always pushing against that, sit down next to your child and watch shows and movies together. Then use the time afterwards to discuss these questions:

What is the worldview of this movie?
What kind of person is the main character? Is she someone you want to be like?
What lies does this movie perpetuate?
What does this show say about materialism?
What part of this movie showed God’s love?

Strategically engaging alongside our kids in the very thing we’re leery of does two things: It shows our kids we are willing to sacrifice our own desires to spend time with them. And it helps prepare them to better discern the movies and media they watch.

Three: Explore Different Ways to Celebrate Sabbath

Taking time away from the crazy rush-rush of a media saturated world is a counter-cultural move your family can take. Choose a day or afternoon for rest. Limit media that day. Choose to engage in artistic, creative endeavors together:

If a child loves music, encourage him to write a song or create an unusual soundtrack.
Supply kids with all sorts of visual arts tools: paint, brushes, magazines, pens, glue, and let them create. If you need focus, think of five families or friends who need to be encouraged, then create cards for each one.
Let your kids have free reign of the video camera. Encourage them to make a movie. Then watch it together as a family, complete with popcorn.
Pull out that karaoke machine.
Read together.
Do a puzzle or play board games.

Four: Go Outside

We are a disconnected culture, defining ourselves by the great indoors and cyberworlds. To combat that in your family, dare to open the front door and walk on out. Take strolls with your kids. Find a local park or wilderness preserve to poke around in. Hike together. Feed the ducks. Launch rockets. Play Frisbee. Kick the ball around. Ride bikes. Pick up garbage along the road. Skateboard. Make going outside a habit.

Five: Focus Outward

Computers and movies and TV and phones focus us inward. Instead, seek to find ways to focus your family outward toward the needs of the world. Sponsor a child in a third world country. Go on a mission trip as a family and take a year together to plan it. Find a cause to support—like digging wells in Africa or alleviating AIDS. Volunteer at a nursing home. Muddying our feet and hands in the real needs of the world gives kids a greater picture of the world and pulls them away from the artificial, often narcissistic world they live in.

It is possible to re-engage your disengaged child. It takes effort, creativity and pluck, but it can be done. The reward? A rejuvenated, connected relationship with your child that no gadget can compare to