Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Women Who Wound--How Many Volumes?

My co and I are embarking on yet another book manuscript, this one about "women who wound and how to lead them." It's an unpleasant fact of life that, even in the church, mis-handled conflict threatens relationships, productivity, and reputations. In the church especially, Christ's reputation is at stake. Some of us naive people might think there won't be so much backstabbing, manipulation, gossip, hurt, misinterpretation--you know, sin!--in the world of ministry. But we forgot one basic truth--the church is made up of, yes, sinners!

So what to do? How do we deal with this inevitable discord? The Bible, whose principles our book will explore indepth, has lots to tell us about that. I bet you do, too. I'd love to hear some of your stories. If you would like to share what you've learned from a past conflict, post a general comment.

I would also appreciate any detailed stories you might contribute to our research--we are always on the lookout for real-life illustrations (names changed to protect the guilty!). Think through these basic steps, then email me privately:

Walk me through the story: who was involved, when (how long did it last), what was the substance of the conflict, give a step by step description of how it played out. Then consider: how did you feel during various stages? were you surprised by the conflict? Finally, what did you learn from the experience?

We're looking mostly for women vs. women stories [aside: my Sunday school teacher jokingly asked how many volumes this book would be. Yikes! We girls have a rep...], but obviously men and women experience disagreements and problems as well. And we deal with them differently. If you have an example of how men and women handled a conflict with one another badly or well, similarly or differently, please share. Thanks!

The goal of our work is to equip women to better expect and biblically deal with the inevitable conflict. In particular, we will focus on women in the church and how they can be peacemakers within their sphere of influence. Perhaps we can shake up the stereotype!

Friday, June 15, 2007

What Kind of Coffee Are You?

Funny, I like mine light and sweet, preferably hazelnut flavored. Although, the details within are pretty much dead-on. Have fun with the quiz and let me know if it's accurate for you!

You are a Black Coffee

At your best, you are: low maintenance, friendly, and adaptable

At your worst, you are: cheap and angsty

You drink coffee when: you can get your hands on it

Your caffeine addiction level: high

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

In the Doghouse

Summer is here, and I'm home with all my kids now, not just the two younger ones. It makes a difference, even that one older child being around. Things are just a little crazier. It's more the exponential kind of increase, not additional. This week, however, the added "excitement" has come from my youngest child--19 month old Maggie--who must constantly practice her new-found talent of turning door handles, thereby opening or closing doors. The pantry, the office, the garage, the back door, the FRONT door...

It's not that I'm afraid she'll wander off if she gets out the door, because I'm pretty much right behind her. It's the dog. At the first hint that a door to the outside world might be opening, he is nosing his way past the door-opening culprit, attempting to squeeze his horse-like body through the miniscule opening that might appear. There are times I will be right there, on top of him, and he gets by me. 85 pounds of dog-flesh, ready to launch, is tough to stop sometimes. Well, he had quite a day yesterday--escaping to cavort about the neighborhood twice.

He is so disobedient—doesn’t come back til he’s good and ready. After the first episode of fruitless calling, whistling, and clicking to get his attention, I just left him out there. I didn't even bother the second time. He came slinking back when he got hot and tired. On his terms, you see. This does not exactly make his momma (ME) happy with him.

To really make his day complete, he stole my last piece of pizza--my lunch, of which I'd had one delicious bite--right off the kitchen island. It’s not like he snagged it off the floor—no, he knowingly reached for it! I was only gone a minute or less, in the next room, and when I came back, I saw him by the back door, cowering in guilt. It took a split second to go “Why is he?…no way (glance at the island)!…that no-good piece of $#%#*$&$…” and then reach for the wooden spoon. I hope he enjoyed the pizza because he surely paid for it. He spent the rest of the day in the laundry room or in the yard, and he tried to suck up every time he saw me. No way. Not that day. I’ll start over with him today. Grrrr….

Saturday, June 02, 2007

Animal Babies

Baby showers are notorious for cute, silly games related to all things baby. This morning I was delighted to reunite with old friends from Rowlett Bible Fellowship as we celebrated the imminent birth of the newest member. And yes, we had a few silly games. One of them was actually educational: guess the baby name to each animal listed.

Some were easy: cow-calf, horse-foal, dog-puppy, cat-kitten...

A few were less familiar but not too hard: goat-kid, deer-fawn, duck-duckling, chicken-chick, frog-tadpole...

Then there were the stumpers. Do you know the baby names that go with the following parent animals? I've added a few to the original list, just for fun. Leave a comment with your guesses.

Goose --

Swan --

Whale --

Eel --

Shark --

Ferret --

Koaloa --

Racoon --

Pigeon --

Hawk --

Have fun!